If the mind is not very flexible and change partners. If you are not flexible, then continue the grueling "rehearsal", straining nerves, losing time, changing methods of influence in an attempt to bring the role – the drum, well-behaved and cause guilt …. That is the reason for survival scenario "executioner-victim-savior" If you are a victim, you are in your life can involve only the executioner. Or make the hangman by projective identification from person close to you (of course, to some extent susceptible to this scenario, but you can either strengthen or weaken the intensity of the display) Since the psyche paradoxical, the "executioner-victim" – it's the same thing. Periodically, they will change the poles, but this does not solve the situation because, even if exhausted, man jumps from pole to pole victim executioner, it can not change scenario as a whole. The script is the same, just partners exchanged roles. Crucially, he (the script) may change if you become aware of their sacrifice or the aggressor inside yourself and change yourself – leave in neutral, that is middle, where in-chief is to cooperate.

But it most often happens in life without help. In order to get something changed need a savior – the third director, who will give you new scenario and will help identify (and learn to understand the essence), with new roles, with new characters. In the life of this director can be a psychologist because of his support is not about to help you transform your Executioner (this role is usually given to friends and relatives more often), and to help you stop being a victim. Then either your partner has run out for you interest in connection with the fact that it will cease to receive radical sadistic satisfaction in communicating with you, or it will change with you, that is, lowered his "hatchet" because it does not find the head on the chopping block, in the language of psychology can only mean one thing – you are no longer projecting an image on it cutter head, because you are no longer the victim and the executioner you do not need you! You remove the head from the chopping block and he (the executioner) ceases to "make your brain", in contemporary language. It's simple. Live easy!